“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.” Tennessee Williams
A recent feature in The New York Times beautifully captured the essence of friends engaging in meaningful conversations:
“Such meetings also provide an opportunity for meaningful exchanges, deepening empathy for one another even when we differ on many things.”
At the India International Centre—Delhi’s leading intellectual and cultural hub—a group of friends gather regularly over coffee. These interactions are marked by camaraderie and curiosity, as we ask each other what my teacher used to call ‘generous questions’.
These unscripted conversations unfold spontaneously, allowing us to engage authentically and without bias.
No wonder we all look forward to these gatherings, particularly since the group comprises senior citizens who have distinguished themselves in diverse fields.
Their insights, reflections, and anecdotes make every meeting a rich learning experience. Both the attached pics reflect the camaraderie and warmth amongst friends- enjoying coffee and having a thoughtful discussion in a relaxed setting.
Photos of Vibrant Personalities
(Courtesy Hon. Raghunath Singh ji)
Here is a glimpse of the vibrant personalities who make up this group, listed alphabetically:
ASHOK BHAN (Pic 1 & 2):
A leading Supreme Court lawyer, astute political analyst, and regular columnist, Ashok Bhan offers incisive observations on the political landscape, particularly concerning Kashmir. His wisdom sparks lively debates, and his ability to mediate differing viewpoints ensures balanced and productive discussions.
He is a passionate believer of peace in the entire Indian sub-continent, and plays an active role in peace initiatives between India and Pakistan. Measured in his tone and style, his anecdotes about judges, lawyers, and courtroom dramas are both absorbing and thought-provoking.
B.R. PATIL: (Pic 1):
Having worked with eminent figures like Sir C.D. Deshmukh, Patil who is a noted sociologist- shares anecdotes that illuminate the lives of India’s great minds.
His ability to connect macro-level trends with grassroots realities often steers the conversation towards the urgent need for social reforms at the village level. His calm presence brings stability to the meetings.
PANKAJ VOHRA (Pic 2):
A seasoned political journalist and commentator, Pankaj Vohra brings sharp political insights and vivid anecdotes to the table. His analyses of the current political climate often form the backbone of our afternoon discussions.
His incisive commentary and wit make every conversation both enriching and rewarding. His understanding of political parties and politicians is profound, and he narrates it with great confidence and precision without imposing his views.
PRAVEER BAGCHI Pic 1 & 2): Associated with think tanks and noble causes, Praveer Bagchi is Known for his profound understanding of political and business personalities, as well as celebrities, and sheds light on little-known facts and perspectives.
His analyses of leadership styles, decision-making processes, and global conflicts—such as the Israel-Palestine issue—captivate the group and spark engaging debates on the intersection of politics, business, and ethics. He is a delightful impromptu storyteller – entertaining friends with amusing sidelights of the big wigs.
RAJANDAR KUMAR JAIN (Pic 1 & 2):
A publishing veteran formerly associated with Oxford University Press and Vikas Publishing, R.K.Jain offers deep insights into the academic publishing world.
His anecdotes about balancing quality and accessibility in educational materials are fascinating. He also delights the group with stories about eccentric authors and their quirks.
His range, however, goes beyond publishing, and he thoroughly enjoys conversations on and about politics and society – with mild interjections that are highly relevant.
RAJIV JAIN (Pic 2):
Owner of the iconic Motilal Banarsidass Publishing House, specializing mostly in Indology and conferred with the Padma Shri, Rajiv Kumar Jain brings a historical and cultural lens to our discussions.
His publishing house has preserved India’s rich heritage, including the monumental 50-volume series The Sacred Books of the East by F. Max Müller. His stories are both inspiring and deeply informative. His gregarious persona and chats often enliven Delhi’s gloomy winter weather.
RAGHUNATH SINGH (Pic 2):
The pioneer behind Doordarshan’s highly popular agricultural program Krishi Darshan, Raghunath Singh Raghunath Chaudhary shares invaluable insights into the changing face of Delhi and India.
With an encyclopedic memory, he enthralls the group with his knowledge of the city’s evolution and its cultural history. His laughter is infectious, and it brightens the overall mood.
SATYA PRAKASH (Pic 1 & 2):
A veteran documentary filmmaker and national award winner, Satya Prakash adds a creative and visual dimension to our conversations.
As the owner of India’s oldest video news service provider, TVNF, he shares fascinating stories about crafting documentaries that have shaped public opinion.
His presence lends harmony …
ASHOK OGRA ( Pic 1):
A media professional cum educator ( DD, Discovery Channel & Apeejay Education) with modest credentials as compared to other members of the group, Ashok Ogra’s insights into various topical socio-political- cultural issues including the ills of misinformation resonate deeply.
His one-liners elevate the mood. His contributions blend professional acumen with a personal touch.
Being both Kashmiris, both Ashok Bhan and Ashok Ogra often reminisce about their homeland, expressing deep nostalgia and sharing the pain and anguish of living as ‘migrants’ in an alien place.
A BLEND OF THE PROFOUND AND THE PLAYFUL:
These conversations often oscillate between the trivial and the profound. What makes them special is the opportunity for meaningful exchanges, even when opinions diverge.
The atmosphere of mutual respect deepens empathy and fosters understanding.
More importantly, these gatherings promote not just intellectual stimulation but also physical and emotional well-being. Socializing in this manner adds years to life and life to those years, ensuring they are filled with purpose and joy.
As we savor our coffee, we also make it a point not to take ourselves too seriously, often recalling Winston Churchill’s sardonic wisdom: “The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.”
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